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[u/tomador08]

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[u/mangjoze]

saw this on instagram and on the comments section the guy said the girl was embarrassed and was quiet all the way home. he got ghosted after. never spoke again.

[u/Ishaan863 → u/mangjoze]

the guy said the girl was embarrassed and was quiet all the way home. he got ghosted after. never spoke again.

maybe he confessed his actual feelings damn

[u/DependentCanary7009 → u/Ishaan863]

Man just expedited the inevitable. I don't think platonic friendship is possible when one party is physically attracted to the other.

[u/tylerray1997 → u/DependentCanary7009]

Honestly, saved him his time unless she's extremely dense and didn't actually know he liked her (which I doubt). Unless you have been friends since childhood, which even that can get complicated as you get older I'd immediately assume that if we are going out to places together without other people, there's some romantic attraction there.

[u/POKECHU020 → u/tylerray1997]

if we are going out to places together without other people, there's some romantic attraction there.

Which is a shame, really. Wish people could just eat out/see a show/etc together without it being seen as romantic

[u/that_girl_you_fucked → u/POKECHU020]

You spend enough time with someone you find even vaguely attractive, aaaand like as a friend, and you're going to bump up against a situation where that line between friendship and romance blurs for at least one of you.

[u/Herb_Merc → u/that_girl_you_fucked]

Kissin' the homies goodnight doesn't count.

...Does it?

[u/melperz → u/Herb_Merc]

That's why i want to be the little spoon so they don't even think of kissing me.

[u/The_Gozon → u/melperz]

I'm'a kiss dat neck tho bruv.

[u/Ugly_Painter → u/The_Gozon]

Now I want a grimey brit to cuddle.

[u/Marlwolf_legends → u/Herb_Merc]

Nothing wrong with some homie love. I got you, my dude. Do you need a hug? Bring it in, let's get you to bed. Sleeps good on the mind, homie, sweet dreams bro.

[u/[deleted] → u/Herb_Merc]

Homies gotta know they are loved too, just gotta whisper no homo in their ear afterwords.

[u/Herb_Merc → u/[deleted]]

Sensually?

[u/avwitcher → u/Herb_Merc]

Everyone knows it's only gay if the balls touch

[u/MaezrielGG → u/that_girl_you_fucked]

you're going to bump up against a situation where that line between friendship and romance blurs for at least one of you.

Sure, and if you're a high schooler it makes sense that you might pursue that.

But anyone entering, in, or past their 30's should be old enough to decide to let love be platonic rather than romantic.

I'm bisexual, so if I wasn't able to figure out how to draw that line then I'd not be able to have any friends.

[u/EsPotD → u/MaezrielGG]

Seriously. I'm friends with a lot of attractive people that I wouldn't date or fuck around with. People acting like everyone is just their libido like we're a bunch of 15 year olds.

[u/Siggycakes → u/EsPotD]

Probably because a lot of the people posting here are 15 year olds.

[u/Canvaverbalist → u/EsPotD]

Because I moved a lot and had to paint and repaint a lot of rooms in my life, I always use the paint analogy.

My monkey dumbass brain sees a gallon of paint and goes: "Looks yummy, put it in my mouth" - that doesn't mean I actually want to drink paint, that doesn't mean I consider myself as someone who wants to drink paint, doesn't mean that if someone were to really push me with a "really bro? you wouldn't? given the right condition?" that I'd answer with anything else than "no, I wouldn't" - I still at the end of the day consider myself as someone who doesn't want to drink paint.

It's the same with wanting to fuck my friends.

Some people are simply used to listening to their dumb monkey brains. Too bad for them, they're paint drinkers.

[u/SouthernAtmosphere30 → u/EsPotD]

The sentiments about not being able to be friends are so ridiculous, shutting yourself off the friendships is a silly idea.

It’s mostly guys here posting that… and then posting in the next thread about being lonely and its not fair or whatever.

[u/GiantPurplePen15 → u/MaezrielGG]

I think there's way more teens and young adults on reddit than most people realize so a lot of the comments on here are usually from people with not a lot of life experience yet.

[u/Nstark7474 → u/GiantPurplePen15]

Dude, my teenage sister showed me her friends Reddit profile once, and I swear on my life, I witnessed a literal virgin giving people explicit sex advice.

Lawd have mercy on the people who come to Reddit for relationship advice.

[u/FlutterbyButterNoFly → u/that_girl_you_fucked]

And sometimes, we realize thats the best for us. I've boned a few female friends, we realized it wasn't what either of us wanted. Now we get flirty when drunk in good fun but never take it further. I call them flirtationships, nothing more. It's quite nice actually, being able to tease and be playful but trust that the other party also has fun and that's all that is expected.

[u/BoxOfNothing → u/POKECHU020]

It is actually quite easy. I have multiple female friends I've had for years who I've been to see movies with, grab a coffee, a drink or a meal, gone to pub quizzes, gone shopping etc, and at least as far as I'm aware no feelings have been involved for anyone

[u/IceColdTear → u/BoxOfNothing]

I don't get why this is so hard for so many men. Men claim there is a male loneliness epidemic, yet cut out half of the population from their friendships. Lets be clear, women do not friend-zone men, she wanted to be your friend and that was all that was ever expected. Men are sex-zoning women.

[u/AlexanderDaychilde → u/IceColdTear]

Men are sex-zoning women.

Keeping this one, that's a good one.

[u/AntiGravityBacon → u/IceColdTear]

Most around here are so starved for interaction with women they can't comprehend that some men don't feel that way or see every woman as their only chance to get laid.

[u/tattlerat → u/POKECHU020]

You can. You just have to see them as just a person and not as a sexual partner.

I’ve got a few friends who are women. I think they’re beautiful inside and out but I’m not interested in them for any reason aside from friendship. They’re just a person like any of my other friends. It’s also nice having access to another perspective I can’t relate to or get from the majority of my friends who are all dudes.

[u/Devildoog → u/POKECHU020]

I mean it’s totally fine to have non romantic friendships but it becomes problematic when one party knows the other is attracted and uses it for free shit and never offers to help out or treat the other. It’s also 50/50 tho because dude really should pull the trigger…things are tricky case by case tho.

[u/matorin57 → u/tylerray1997]

Do you not have friends you hang out with? I go see shows and movies with friends all the time without there being an assumed romantic interest.

[u/PaleYellowBee → u/tylerray1997]

I'd immediately assume that if we are going out to places together without other people, there's some romantic attraction there.

Well that's an immature view to have and it's concerning how many upvotes you got.

Men, it is ok to have friends who are women, yes it is even ok to go out with a female friend only you two. Stop being childish and establish your goddamn relationship instead of playing mind games or "waiting for your turn".

[u/Linkyland → u/tylerray1997]

What if she is ace and genuinely wanted a friend? Shat if he was ace and genuinely just wanted a friend?

I honestly find this so sad.

[u/CatgoesM00 → u/DependentCanary7009]

If I find my friends beautiful and attractive, doesn’t mean we can’t be friends ?

[u/Umarill → u/CatgoesM00]

Don't try to talk social stuff with redditors, waste of time lol

I'm a bi girl who is attracted to a LOT of my friends, got rejected by some of them, and we have very healthy friendships, including me being friend with their current partners and all.

Most people here are just animals who can't control themselves and need some therapy in their life if they can't be friends with people they are attracted to.

I'd be beyond lonely if that was the case lol

[u/GammaBrass → u/Umarill]

I always see people say things like

You just have to view your female friends as humans, not as potential sexual partners

And I always think, "So you don't see your potential sexual partners as people? Damn, way to tell on yourself, bro."

I am attracted to nearly all my female friends because they are wonderful people, and wonderful people are attractive to me. I wouldn't be friends with them if they weren't awesome. Doesn't mean I ever try to pursue, or that if sex was on the table I would automatically say yes, because funny enough, I see women I am attracted to as people. Also doesn't mean I won't try to pursue.

[u/MasterpieceSharpie9 → u/DependentCanary7009]

At no point did he say he was attracted to her.

[u/T_Money → u/MasterpieceSharpie9]

The comedian is saying he is, she is vehemently denying it, while the guy is just sitting there quietly. The fact that he doesn’t join her in saying “no really we are just friends” says a lot.

[u/Equal-Holiday-8324 → u/T_Money]

It really doesnt. Some people just dont know how to engage a person on stage calling them out.

[u/Sithpawn → u/T_Money]

Let's assume the guy has no romantic or sexual feelings toward her, there is nothing he could say in that moment that would convince anybody. The comic has complete control of the room and nobody is going to believe the guy. He wants to keep things light cause it's entertainment and there's no way the comic is going to let him seriously express himself. Personally, that's why I think he's quiet.

[u/Im_Daydrunk → u/T_Money]

If he was saying "no" people would be just saying he was trying too hard to deny it

Honestly there's no really good way to deal with that situation and have everyone believe you. You just gotta do you and live your life like the outcome of that doesn't matter

[u/DependentCanary7009 → u/MasterpieceSharpie9]

Yup speculating the heck out of this

[u/Johnny_Poppyseed → u/DependentCanary7009]

Man that's just sad. Y'all can't be physically attracted to people and just like, not act on that? It's not hard wtf.

As a guy I can comfortably say that nothing has gotten me laid more, than hanging out with other attractive women. Attractive women friends have other attractive women friends of their own and they love to set you up. You don't even have to do anything.

A friendship can't work if one of the people want to be more than a friendship. That's it. It doesn't have to do with attraction. You can be attracted to people but not want anything from them.

[u/dinsboots → u/DependentCanary7009]

Agreed, regardless of who likes who, someone is getting walked all over in that.

Got a friend in the last year, yeah she's super cute, more important she's a good person. So I told her I'd like more of her time, maybe even a date. She's very busy with work stuff, I am too. Got a soft no. it's agreed she doesn't actually have time. Most importantly, that's out of the way. It's out in the open. It's not some one sided secret interest BS. So if I'm gonna compliment her, she knows it's not meaningless make you feel better stuff.

Humans of earth! It's fine to be interested in a friend. But that shits gotta get laid out on the table before it turns into something you're just secretly daydreaming about and can't come back from. I gotta say, if the one sided relationship has made it to that point, the good friend ship thing has already sailed. Now it's just one of you hurting for no reason

[u/sumar → u/Ishaan863]

Nothing wrong to confess how you feel, but there is lots of wrong to be used as a paying mule. I think the guy is lucky that that ended right there, he could've wasted even more time, and money

[u/alison_bee → u/sumar]

Bro we have no idea if he is a “paying mule” 😂 all we actually know from this clip is that he bought tickets for the show that night, and was going to pay for dinner.

For all we know, they switch up paying for stuff. Or maybe he got her the tickets as a birthday present.

There are literally SO many other factors that we know nothing about, but y’all stay out here trying to drag this woman when we know nothing.

Edit: typo/formatting

[u/mais1silva → u/alison_bee]

That, 100%, and also the fact he is believing the claims of a random comment on Instagram

[u/jcoddinc → u/Ishaan863]

"Why did you just sit there and not yell him it wasn't like that?"

"Weeeeellllll"

[u/CaptainJay313 → u/mangjoze]

there's a reason she was embarrassed.

[u/FancyJesse → u/CaptainJay313]

A platonic friend would have laughed about it and seen it as a funny memory.

So something was up obviously

[u/AbsolutelyUnlikely → u/FancyJesse]

Yeah, something was up. The jig. The jig was up! Stop using this poor man for free tickets!

[u/DocMoochal → u/FancyJesse]

This might have been the first few dates. But, fellas, do not do VIP or front row seats at a comedy club/show with a girl youre still feeling out. You're in the line of fire for crowd work.

[u/dirtyshits → u/DocMoochal]

Couple things... They have been friends for a few years per the video and they said they are not a couple and not once did they say they were on a date after all that shit the comedian gave.

My guess is the dude was heavy in the friendzone.

[u/David-S-Pumpkins → u/dirtyshits]

heavy in the friendzone

You know, friends. That's what they both said they were. Friends hang out sometimes, even go to comedy shows together.

[u/dirtyshits → u/David-S-Pumpkins]

Except from my perspective after watching the video and from what the guy himself said on IG(the guy replied on an IG post of this video that the comedian posted) the guy said she was embarrassed and they never spoke again. You know, what friends do after a joke at a comedy show.

Maybe they are friends and this is all just a waste of time.

Who knows?

Edit: I found the post myself and it's clearly the same guy. Just had to verify what someone else commented above for myself.

[u/throwaway939wru9ew → u/FancyJesse]

The cynic in me agrees with you.

But, maybe she was pissed that he didn't back her up and affirm that they actually WERE platonic. So maybe for her, her eyes were opened that HE wasn't being honest.

Maybe in the end, they both had a reality check.

But back to picking up the check...yeah...if i was the girl and got called out like that, you better believe I would have ran over my friend to pick up the check before the comedian could attack.

Final thought too...I can't ever think of a time I would go get a VIP booth at something and take my platonic friend and no one else. Esp a comedy show...that's meant for groups of friends.

[u/Merlord → u/throwaway939wru9ew]

Yep, people ragging on her for leading him on, but if he's not being honest with his feelings then thats on him.

[u/sonofabee → u/CaptainJay313]

The truth can be embarrassing

[u/CaptainJay313 → u/sonofabee]

exactly.

[u/J_B_Frawg → u/mangjoze]

Good. She wasn't gonna do shit but use him anyway lmao

[u/PinkTalkingDead → u/J_B_Frawg]

The fact that this has so many upvotes is legitimately concerning

[u/TackleballShootyhoop → u/PinkTalkingDead]

Redditors will hate Andrew Tate while simultaneously sharing the same thoughts he has on a lot of things like this lmao

[u/DrDilatory → u/TackleballShootyhoop]

Brothers, is it automatically "Andrew Tate misogynistic garbage" to occasionally acknowledge some of the benefits women have in social interactions compared to men, while otherwise respecting and appreciating women?

How the fuck you going to lump him in with people like that for acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, at least once in history there was a woman who intentionally strung a guy along with the possibility of romantic attraction?

Suggesting that she was only planning to use him in no way implies anything negative about all women all the time lmao

[u/9manacombo → u/[deleted]]

you can ghost a friend. in fact that is typically how friendships end. One day you never interact with that person again. No fight or drama just doing your own things.

[u/Nign0glmao → u/PinkTalkingDead]

He paid for the tickets, was abt to pay for the meals. Confused as to what you would call that

[u/greenw04 → u/Nign0glmao]

Maybe she paid last time? Maybe she's broke and her friend wanted to do something nice for her? Maybe it's her birthday?

You can't judge a situation from a small clip like this man

[u/LasagnaAddicted → u/mangjoze]

It surprises me that he got ghosted and not her.

[u/Dyanpanda → u/LasagnaAddicted]

There's a reason he's being a floormat for a "platonic friend"

[u/mazzicc → u/mangjoze]

Being ghosted implies that they weren’t just friends. You don’t just ghost a friend after something like this, you give them shit and get payback.

[u/judokalinker → u/mazzicc]

You can definitely ghost friends, but in this situation it's likely that there were unrequited feelings.

[u/EverythingsSweet → u/mangjoze]

Yeah people usually feel embarrassed and ashamed when they get exposed. Wasn’t the guys fault so why be upset at him for any reason so it just seems like truth hurt otherwise they would have laughed and got over it. She’ll be fine don’t worry.

[u/Th5humanwi11 → u/mangjoze]

Good, he lost a “friend” who hangs for free stuff

[u/Dillo64 → u/mangjoze]

Source?

[u/Finkrgh → u/Dillo64]

trust me bro

[u/voideaten → u/mangjoze]

This guy on stage really publicly humiliated a stranger because he couldn't fathom having a mutually respectful relationship with a woman, and decided it must be her job to rectify it. We have no idea what their friendship actually looks like, or how its reciprocated.

And say the guy on stage is right: of all the people involved here, I don't understand why she's the one being blamed for this arrangement. She's stating her intentions very clearly, so either her friend's been ignoring that, or at the very least he didn't state his intentions at all (so he can get closure and move on). So of course she thinks they're just friends, if that's what they've openly agreed to!

If my friend admitted that they were secretly hoping to manipulate me into doing something I'd already said 'no' to, that all the fun things we were doing together were actually Nice™ stamps that they should be able to exchange for access to me, I wouldn't want to be around them anymore either.

[u/cheapdrinks → u/voideaten]

This guy is famous for his crowdwork, it's a huge part of his show especially with couples in the audience, I mean they have cameras set up pointed at the crowd for a reason, he didn't just randomly decide to pick on these people out of nowhere.

If you buy front row tickets then you know what you're in for and you're basically specifically paying for that experience. He always roasts the audience and makes fun of the different dynamics between the couples there. You don't just get to go, sit right up front in the part of the crowd that has cameras trained on them and expect you're going sit there and laugh at everyone else he makes fun of and not have it be your turn at some point. Most people right up front might even feel a bit ripped off if he just passed over them all night and they didn't get a turn.

Getting offended that he ripped on your little friendship date situation would be like sitting in the splash zone at Sea World and getting angry that you got wet.

[u/bystander007 → u/mangjoze]

Honestly though not the worst outcome.

If this guy was just in it for the eventually confession and she had no interest, rip the band-aid off. It's one thing for two people to be friends. It a whole other thing for one person to be holding out from someone whose never gonna feel the same way.

I don't think either of them was in the wrong. Just wasn't a dynamic that was gonna work out. Comedian did him a solid by hammering the last nail into the coffin. Now that guy can go out and find a mutual relationship and she doesn't have to stress about having a friend whose secretly possessive.

Win-win.

[u/Miserable-Rest-5259 → u/mangjoze]

I’d love a link.

[u/critical_suspect1 → u/Miserable-Rest-5259]

It's the internet. Trust him, bro

[u/SnooHedgehogs6156]

I'm not saying the comedian is right about the situation BUT i wish someone did that to me when I was in the same situation with a girl I liked. If the comedian was right he straight up saved this dude's life

[u/InflamedLiver → u/SnooHedgehogs6156]

the amount of aggression the comedian's throwing her way says Mr. Not-boyfriend is not gonna have the happy ending he's hoping for.

[u/MycoHost01 → u/InflamedLiver]

He never was

[u/ShoddyTerm4385 → u/MycoHost01]

That’s literally the whole thing lol

[u/Astrochops → u/ShoddyTerm4385]

I'd like to think he is happier this way

[u/mantisek_pr → u/InflamedLiver]

It was never gonna happen. If you pay for everything for some girl and she' sjust like ITS NOT LIKE THAT, she's 100% a user.

[u/SortedChaos → u/mantisek_pr]

FOR TWO YEARS. Yes, you can have platonic relationships but if this relationship was platonic they would be splitting the bills or taking turns paying for things.

[u/mantisek_pr → u/SortedChaos]

Yes exactly!

[u/BagOfFlies → u/SortedChaos]

or taking turns paying for things.

For all we know that could have been the case.

[u/freshprinceofbayarea → u/SnooHedgehogs6156]

Damn. The fact that the guy was just watching it all unfold, and did not step in, correct or deny probably means he really was attracted to her. That or he just wanted the comedian to flame her lol

[u/Gheauxst → u/freshprinceofbayarea]

He probably didn't want to feed into it. I would've done the same tbh, going back and forth with a comic just gives them more to work with

[u/a-ram → u/Gheauxst]

i hate that thats been rising as a trend amongst comedians. im just tryna laugh, i dont wanna be anxious abt if im gonna get picked on

[u/Maluelue → u/a-ram]

Just sit at the back bro

[u/Asisreo1 → u/a-ram]

Idk, if you don't wanna get clowned on, the first step is to probably not buy VIP tickets to a comedy for your friend you're possibly attracted to.

[u/More_World_6862 → u/a-ram]

i hate that thats been rising as a trend amongst comedians

This isnt new. Stand up comedians have always done crowd work with the first couple of rows and hecklers.

The best shows i've been to i've sat front row and got made fun of. People buy you drinks later and usually the comic will chat with you after if you weren't a dink.

[u/NotChasingThese → u/a-ram]

also, crowd work is really popular for comedians to post on like tiktok or youtube because it allows them to put out content without giving away their routine, so thats maybe why you're seeing it as a 'rising trend', because they mainly put that out into the world

[u/MoreGaghPlease → u/SnooHedgehogs6156]

But conversely, I remember as a teenager that it drove me crazy that people always made a big deal out of me having mostly female friends. Not all, but like at least two-thirds.

My wife and I have been together for nearly 20 years and were were never ‘just friends’ first. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it was just a different vibe right away.

[u/AuraMaster7]

Damn. A lot of people in this comments section legitimately believe that men and women can't just be friends. That's fucking sad.

[u/spelan1 → u/AuraMaster7]

Yeah, the whole 'men aged 27 don't want female friends' bit made my eye twitch. I'm 32 and I love to make new friends, both male and female; I have plenty of platonic female friends and love them dearly for the joy and laughter they bring to my life. They have a different and valuable perspective that men can't bring.

Guys in this comment thread need to grow up. Or maybe they're all teenagers, in which case I guess they're just acting their age!

[u/the-Boat83 → u/spelan1]

Do you pay for nights out when it's just the two of you

[u/spelan1 → u/the-Boat83]

I have done with some friends, yeah. It's nice to be a generous person.

[u/ionlyrickroll → u/spelan1]

Lol it’s funny how you got downvoted when you proved your point. I’ve paid for my friends’ food before too. Same sex and opposite sex

[u/EggoSlayer → u/ionlyrickroll]

This is just what friends do for each other. I've paid for my friend's meals and movie tickets and stuff many times and they've done the same for me. If they are people you care about, you're willing to do that and not be insistent on being paid back or anything because you know they'd do the same for you. It shouldn't matter what gender either.

[u/CourseDue8553 → u/spelan1]

Don't forget the VIP tickets to the comedy club, too. It's one thing to treat out a friend, it's another when you take them on an all expenses paid trip with VIP treatment and overpriced food.

Don't get me wrong, it's nice to be generous, but even platonic relationships can be taken advantage of.

[u/_Nana777 → u/CourseDue8553]

Yeah, no. I paid a whole AirBnB with a swimming pool for a week for all my friends. Around 2000€. I'm a woman. I didn't expect shit. I just received a huge bonus from work and wanted to chill with my best friends.
VIP tickets really aren't a big deal. Especially VIP tickets to see an unknown comedian. I'd get VIP tickets for my best friend if it was their birthdays or anything else special. Like they would for me. Men or women, doesn't matter. I'm bisexual anyway

People on this thread need more friends

[u/SirFrancis_Bacon → u/_Nana777]

People on this thread need more friends

Seems like what we need is more money. Just casually dropping 2k on a holiday for your friends? wtf lol.

[u/OverlordWaffles → u/SirFrancis_Bacon]

Yeah. I'm happy somebody is getting some extra from employers, lord knows they always want more for no additional pay, I just wish I could get a bonus too. Especially 2,000 buckaroos

[u/ZeGentleman → u/_Nana777]

all my friends

And imagine if you did that for a singular friend. Treating a group of friends is significantly easier than one.

[u/_Nana777 → u/ZeGentleman]

Sure, I can depending on the situation. Can I afford it? Is it a special occasion? Do I want to (is that person worth it in my heart)?

So what?
This guy here didn't pay 2K like I did. It's 30~42$ for that comedian's VIP tickets. So why is he making a big deal out of inviting a friend out?

Even if the guy truly has a SECRET crush for the woman, so what? She has to guess his feelings and then cut him off and refuse to stay friends at all? What's the big idea here?

[u/NaturalSelectorX → u/CourseDue8553]

If I really want to do something and my friends can't afford it, then I'm happy to pay. I'd rather do it with friends than not do it.

[u/lilymf → u/spelan1]

This is similar to a friendship I have. I get ready to pay my half every time and sometimes he lets me and sometimes he takes the bill (not without a fight lol). The way he sees it is that he earns more, is older and he sees me like a sister. The idea some people have that a guy wouldn’t pay for his female friend without wanting something back is bizarre. Some people are just generous & nice 😳

[u/WeaponisedArmadillo → u/spelan1]

I'm late 30s and have a female best friend, we are super close and both our partners understand and see we are all better off when my best friend and I get to be free and hang out on our own without our partners. I'm not interested in pursuing her and vise versa.

[u/Bi0-D → u/spelan1]

34 and same here. Tough enough to meet new people around work, why cut off half the population? Plus I'm bi anyway, so according to this comedian's joke I can't have any friends I guess?

[u/Shopworn_Soul → u/AuraMaster7]

This whole thread is fucking pathetic. Is it not possible to like hanging out with someone without wanting to stick my dick in them? What the actual fuck?

None of that shit was funny. Fuck that comic.

[u/Jbeansss → u/Shopworn_Soul]

I fucking hated this guy ever since I saw a clip of him harassing a dude in the audience for not laughing at his jokes. He straight up wouldn't shut the fuck up about it and was visibly mad the whole time.

[u/Creepy_Blueberry_554 → u/Jbeansss]

I haven’t seen a single funny clip of him. Only clips of him berating people in the crowd.

[u/ChadtheBalla → u/Shopworn_Soul]

Finally I found someone else who thinks this comedian is a worthless douchebag, I was starting to think I was the only one

[u/dracesw → u/Shopworn_Soul]

Or, hear me out, he didn't want to go alone and only a female friend wanted to come. I need a new site, this comment section is making me really reevaluate how much time I spend on here

[u/Howitzer1967 → u/AuraMaster7]

It took me a long time to find this comment. I agree, 100%. Throughout my life I have had loads of women friends. We’re not living in a movie, there’s no subtext to these friendships.

[u/bakochba → u/AuraMaster7]

Yeah I found this very aggressive and angry

[u/goldraven → u/bakochba]

I did as well. When you go to comedy shows, particularly when you're sitting that close, you're open to being a part of the talking points. So that part didn't bother me.

But the tone the comedian used was pretty pathetic. There are a million ways these people could be just friends for a few years. I just feel like the comedian decided to ruin their night instead of letting them figure it out. Like I almost thought he comedian was hoping he'd admit he was gay, or that he was her brother, or coworker that won tickets to this event or something, etc. I was just put off from this interaction because of how the comedian handled himself.

[u/Vinnyc-11 → u/AuraMaster7]

And then there are the people who are just happy to see a random woman get shit on for no reason because those exist.

[u/FairTradeOrganicPiss → u/Vinnyc-11]

Everyone is conveniently skipping over the part where he pretty directly implied that the fair thing for her to do at the end of the evening was a sexual favor. He called her a “liar” in front of her friend and the audience, for being SO horrible as to enjoy a night out with a friend. Maybe she just lost her job and he’s trying to cheer her up. Maybe they go out every few weeks and trade off paying, last week she got the bill at medieval times. Jesus christ

[u/ObsceneTurnip → u/AuraMaster7]

It is very possible for men and women to be platonic friends.

It is not possible for a man and a woman to be platonic friends when one party frequently/regularly pays for outings, gifts, and meals.

Friendships are bidirectional. You treat your friends sometimes and sometimes they treat you. LIKE FOR EXAMPLE, grabbing the bill for the food when your friend bought you tickets for a show.

[u/tdasnowman → u/ObsceneTurnip]

We have no idea of their individual financial situations, how much one likes comedy shows, or how this rest of their dynamic works. You can pay people back in other ways by being a good friend. I’m a strong guy, I lift a lot of heavy shit for my friends. I get comped a lot of meals. Me and my friends trade experiences. I might get tickets for this thing they might get tickets for something a year or two form now. Every one is judging 90 seconds. Reddit makes a lot of assumptions. Does anyone know for sure they actually no longer speak to each other. And even if it’s true that they don’t, how much of that is from the comic posting their face on his Instagram. Not everyone enjoys notoriety.

[u/FantasticJacket7 → u/ObsceneTurnip]

I like how you're just inventing a scenario where this guy pays for everything all the time and arguing as if that's just established fact. Good show.

[u/Umarill → u/AuraMaster7]

Redditors.

This thread is the perfect example on how pathetic most of this site users are, and the rampant sexism that runs deep.

I'm a bi woman leaning toward girls, I find a LOT of people attractive, including tons of my friends. Following their logic, I would not be able to have any friends at all or be close with someone. Meanwhile I can cuddle with friends who have rejected me romantically, and we are both very happy with zero bitterness or weird tension, strange how not being on the level of a toddler emotionally makes for better relationships.

How does that work with lesbian girls in their mind, supposed to hangout with guys because they might be attracted to their girl friends? Dumbasses

[u/vulgarmadman- → u/AuraMaster7]

This is Reddit many here have not been graced with the touch of a woman. Friendship is the last thing on their minds! Silly dudes

[u/Vast_Package_5558 → u/AuraMaster7]

This bit by this particular comedian is a perfect storm for a Reddit boner. Right down to splitting the bill, a leading cause of people on this website. This comic has been posted before for being a general nut job on stage when doing crowd work. Him saying “who wants a BITCH to hang out with at 27?” is the icing on the cake.

[u/JayAlexanderBee]

Why the fuck do they start with subtitles and don't finish it.

[u/Kingwretch → u/JayAlexanderBee]

Finally!!!!! Someone’s asking the important questions here

[u/Gh0st1nTh3Syst3m → u/Kingwretch]

30% of the way in

"This is a lot of work. Let em lip read the rest"

[u/hikemalls → u/JayAlexanderBee]

This is what I came here to comment - if there’s no subtitles immediately, I know I need to turn on sound. If there’s subtitles, I figure I can watch without sound. What the fuck is this ‘subtitles for the first 15 seconds of a minute long video’ nonsense?

[u/sample-name → u/hikemalls]

Probably to create engagement for the post. They get more views and comments by luring in fools like us. I would also logde a complaint about how the subtitles are waaay too fast, had to rewind several times to read it. I guess there's no reason being mad about that either, they probably did that intentionally as well...

[u/ares395 → u/JayAlexanderBee]

This pisses me off to an unreasonable degree, like wtf did someone give up halfway through

[u/J_B_Frawg]

I found this post with a negative one. Broke bitches using guys and manipulating their feelings are mad yo

[u/chrissmithXD001 → u/J_B_Frawg]

That explains why she’s on her phone every time we go out to eat.

[u/ToapFN → u/J_B_Frawg]

Bro talking like Jesse Pinkman

[u/pinkpineapples007 → u/J_B_Frawg]

She’s not manipulating his feelings bc she didn’t know he had feelings.

And people like to be generous with friends. I pay for my friends food all the time

[u/AmarildoJr]

"He bought VIP tickets and you're not giving him anything?"

PLEASE, never encourage this kind of behavior. It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, you owe nothing to someone who asked you to go along with them to [insert activity here].
EDIT: I was referring to the (possible) love interaction between them. I wasn't at the wings stage yet! :P

[u/BukkakeFuneral → u/AmarildoJr]

I don’t agree. Yeah obviously nothing intimate or emotional or physical is owed, but it’s not unreasonable to expect common decency from a friend. If you buy tickets, I’m buying drinks at the very minimum. I have never been in a situation where I would feel even slightly okay about paying absolutely nothing for a night out with a friend while they cover the whole tab. That is not something a good friend does.

[u/SgtRedRum518 → u/BukkakeFuneral]

Wise words BukkakeFuneral

[u/incaman88 → u/SgtRedRum518]

Word BukkakeFuneral dropping gems

[u/RAtheThrowaway_ → u/SgtRedRum518]

r/rimjob_steve

[u/Celarc_99 → u/BukkakeFuneral]

Pretty much where I'm at too.

If she was a good friend, then surely she would feel terrible about him doing all this for her, and not being able to pay a few drinks or some food forward. If my friends take me out somewhere nice, I feel terrible if I don't at least provide something in return.

It's not about the person expecting something from the friend. It's about the friend being a decent person, and paying the gift forward. I like to compare it to christmas. If someone gets your a christmas gift one year, its polite to give them a gift the following year if you can help it. So why in the world would that logic not apply to other gifts as well?

[u/kingofgods218 → u/AmarildoJr]

Like, literally nothing? Because that's kinda fucked for any friendship, platonic or not. I always offer to pay for the next outing or something. Otherwise, you are just taking full advantage.

[u/AgentMochi → u/AmarildoJr]

Yea, jesus christ, that line made me cringe so hard. The way he says it makes it sound like he means sex or something along those lines also, it's just super gross behaviour and an awful mindset in general

[u/BxSpatan]

One of the most messed up things about the friends Zone situation is that. "And I've been there myself." Most women will die on the hill that there's nothing wrong with it men and women can be just friends... but if you ask them if they would allow their boyfriend /husband or even Crush to have a female best friend, they're like, no way.

Edit, okay, I see where this looks incel ish. I'm not that. I worded it wrong. What I meant is best friend. So here's the criteria. For what I'm trying to say.

They have a relationship that exists without you being involved in any way or form.

Long phone conversation with inside jokes. Activities like shopping going to the movies going to dinner going to the bar or club. Spending time alone with each other at her residence ,Alone.

Basically, there are no stipulations that would exist with a male friend.

[u/MurderSheCroaked → u/BxSpatan]

That's just toxic people. If you're not letting your SO hang out with the opposite sex, you have a jealously issue or a trust issue. Fix it and be healthy. My husband has tons of female friends, they're cool people and they like me too. I don't understand why everyone wants to lie so much in relationships, it's miserable

[u/Shamanalah → u/MurderSheCroaked]

That's just toxic people. If you're not letting your SO hang out with the opposite sex, you have a jealously issue or a trust issue. Fix it and be healthy.

Nah this thread is hilarious shit.

Women and men can't be friend cause obviously, we are all frustrated horny dudes who sees women as ambulant vaginas. Duh! /s

[u/Procrastinatedthink → u/Shamanalah]

ambulant vaginas

weewoo weewoo

[u/_The_Great_Autismo_ → u/BxSpatan]

The "friend zone" doesn't exist. You aren't entitled to sex just because you're a "nice guy".

[u/DarkandDanker → u/_The_Great_Autismo_]

Yeah ppl incelling hard in this thread fr fr

[u/MtnDewTangClan → u/_The_Great_Autismo_]

The "friend zone" is where one person misleads the other instead of just saying 'no thanks'

[u/levian_durai → u/MtnDewTangClan]

99% of the time the friend zone is when one person isn't confident enough to just tell the other person their feelings outright. Instead they just pretend to be friends and hope that the other person will fall madly in love with them.

[u/honda_slaps → u/_The_Great_Autismo_]

The friend zone does exist for sure dude.

You just can't take it personally when you get friend zoned and you can't just ejecto-seato the friendship when you do get denied.

But it's totally a thing.

EDIT: Being friendzoned isn't some incel conspiracy. It's just a person exercising their right to say "sorry, I'm not attracted to you in a romantic way, but I appreciate your friendship and would like for that to continue."

Lots of incels lose their mind at this, so it seems like it's an incel thing, but it's a thing that happens to both genders and regular ass people.

[u/Nonameswhere]

That dude is entirely way too angry.

[u/PMMeVayneHentai → u/Nonameswhere]

He’s projecting onto that couple. He’s putting himself in the guy’s shoes and you can tell he’s getting worked up about the fact that the date isn’t working out. Ugh it’s cringe and honestly so weird

[u/digitalUID → u/PMMeVayneHentai]

Yeah, I felt that way after that last bit for sure.

[u/Iam__andiknowit → u/Nonameswhere]

And not funny.

[u/prodigymib]

Regardless of romantic feelings, is it crazy that she pay for the food since he paid for the tickets?

[u/spelan1 → u/prodigymib]

I mean, it totally depends on the situation, does it not? Sometimes I just wanna treat my friends and I want to pay for everything because I like doing that. One of my best friends (who is female) had a shit day today so I bought her a gift to cheer her up. I didn't expect anything in return, I did it because I wanted to make her feel better. I would've done it for a male friend, too. I don't think we're in a position to judge what he should or shouldn't have paid for.

[u/mb3838 → u/spelan1]

If you have a male friend who makes good money but you guys have gone out 5-6 times and he hasn't paid once, you aren't going to terminate the friendship?

I call bs

[u/Dagos → u/mb3838]

This is now just a hypothetical situation, why are we putting that on this woman?

[u/manhachuvosa → u/Dagos]

Because Reddit is always misogynistic.

[u/33arig]

Isn’t this the guy who had a meltdown because someone wasn’t laughing

[u/VTorb → u/33arig]

Yup. This guy is out of his mind.

Edit with link

https://reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/yph0fd/comedians_reaction_to_a_heckler_is_a_spiralling/

[u/Throwitortossit → u/VTorb]

Oof such a fragile ego.

[u/anantj → u/VTorb]

That was hard to watch.

[u/4Eights → u/33arig]

Also the same guy who freaks the fuck out and laughs manically while trying to destroy the chair he's in and touch Andrew Schultz as much as possible.

It's just as cringe worthy as Bert Kreischer's stupid wheezing "I'm gonna pass out laugh", that he immediately stops and begins speaking normally after he stops getting reactions / going viral from it.

All these comedians just sit around talking about the "art of cawlmedy" and how "civilians" just don't understand how brutal it is to be a "stand up".

[u/_The_Great_Autismo_]

I couldn't listen to even thirty seconds of this whiny incel. It's pretty telling that:

1. He describes women as "female"
2. He thinks it's wrong for men to have friends who are women
3. He sees women as sexual objects.

[u/_Nana777 → u/_The_Great_Autismo_]

"He paid for this and you don't even give him anything in return!??!?!?"
Like bro. Stfu. If someone gifts you something, it should be without expecting anything in return. This comedian is the joke

[u/_The_Great_Autismo_ → u/_Nana777]

Yeah I don't get how people find him funny. He's so obviously a loser with warped ideas about women.

[u/robclancy → u/_The_Great_Autismo_]

“Female friends” is a perfectly fine phrase in the context it was in. How else would you even say that? “Friends who are women”?
A woman talking about her “friends who are men” would also say “male friends”.

2 and 3 are jokes and mainly because he paid for vip.

The whole thing was a bit weird though. But what you get for paying to get a close seat to a comedian known for this shit.

Some of the comments on here though are very incel.

EDIT: now his comment about people "challenging their views" is extra funny since they blocked me

[u/ghostwilliz]

the cringe is off the charts here.

[u/tomador08]

Comedian's name is Akaash Singh

[u/ArthurParkerhouse → u/tomador08]

Trashy

[u/darklordind → u/tomador08]

He is a asshole - https://youtu.be/yF4sqNoC-vc

[u/freethinker- → u/darklordind]

Damn, he's insecure af

[u/Has_Recipes → u/tomador08]

Weak crowd work, shitty outlook, pushy and obnoxious.

[u/Invaderjay87]

Loser comedian admits he has no lady friends. Sad.

[u/Iam__andiknowit → u/Invaderjay87]

Is it supposed to be funny? He is screaming and spitting bullshit like he still in puberty.

[u/Parkerdude]

These comments are borderline incel and embarrassing.

So many people have condemned and judged that poor woman with absolutely no context or idea of what is going on with their relationship.

She has done literally nothing and getting lambasted by random people on the internet.

That's fucked up.

[u/PMMeVayneHentai → u/Parkerdude]

Welcome to Reddit, and also Akash’s style of comedy and the way he sees women. Dude was and still is mentally an incel

[u/KayLilySis]

This is some misogynistic rhetoric being thrown around, also if you don't think women and men can be friends without there being romantic connotations you are smooth brained

[u/haysus25]

The comedian is pretty aggressive with the guy having a female friend. I (cis-male) have female friends that I have taken out to dinner, seen a movie, or done another activity with (escape room, top golf, etc) where I have solely paid.

However, a VIP ticket to a late night comedy show and an expensive dinner is a little extravagant to solely foot the bill with any of my friends (be they male, female, single, dating, or taken).

Now, we don't really know how expensive the VIP tickers were, what they ordered, or any context on their relationship, but if one of my female friends took me a nice dinner with VIP tickets to a comedy show, I would be happy to go.....and split the bill.

[u/_Nana777 → u/haysus25]

Honestly it just depends if you can afford it imo. I know that if I invite my friends to something expensive they'll try to pay for whatever they CAN and if they can't pay anything, that's fine by me!
Especially if I make more money than them. What's the point of money if I can't spend it on having a great time with my loved ones? They'd pay if they could. But if they can't and if I want us to have fun, then I'll pay (if I can afford it myself ofc).

But many people here are being super judgmental. Even if the tickets were crazy expensive, what does it matter? Maybe it's a special present or something? Maybe last time she invited him somewhere crazy? Or maybe he just wanted to have a good time with his friend and he could afford it?

[u/mawkdugless]

Isn't this the same dude that threw a full-on temper tantrum because a British dude didn't laugh at his jokes?

[u/andrewsad1 → u/mawkdugless]

Dude wasn't laughing and this incel started whining about the queen for 5 minutes lmao

He didn't have anything prepared for his set except "roast someone in the audience, and riff off what they say" but the dude didn't say anything so he just ended up looking crazy

[u/TheRegular-Throwaway]

Dude here, with a female best friend. We have never banged or talked about it. We’ve just been chill, for like years at this point. It’s all good lol.

[u/Ok_Distance_7209]

Is it just me or was someone just waiting for him to say "I'm gay"

[u/Baquvix]

Damn. Thank you comedician. I am going to message all my female friends that I want them and wanna sleep with them. Because thats who I am. I am a man. And I can only do work and sex. Thats my only purpose in life unga bunga.

[u/tylweddteg]

My best friend is male. I met him in university. We’ve been friends for 29 years now. He’s friends with my husband and I’m still friends with his ex-wife.

[u/imp0steur]

I don't know why but I hate this piece of shit "comedian". He is fucking obnoxious.

[u/FullyRisenPhoenix]

This should actually be on r/cringepics. What a shitshow of uncomfortable misogyny.

[u/ryanandhobbes]

Fucking loser comedian and the creeps in these comments all about how men and women can't be friends, wtf.

[u/TheDeafGuy8]

I hate these half captions, if you’re gonna add captions do the entire thing and not just using them to add flair to specific sentences

[u/AnEmancipatedSpambot]

As someone who is bisexual I find this idea to be baffling.

If the world was this comedians way I would not be able to be friends with anyone. Im not always trying to fuck.

Also My friends are good and kind people. Of course I will be attracted to them. That doesnt mean I will act on it. Wtf?

Reddit is a really joyless ass place.

[u/Subanun]

Very unexpected but not cool 😅 the joke was funny but the follow up is cringe.